Honestly, I am always thankful that I don't have a lot if memories of saying how unruly my son was when he was younger. It makes me reflect about it whenever I hear other parents with younger kids "complaining" about how "kulit" their offsprings are.
Don't get me wrong. My son was no angel when he was younger but he generally behaved well more often. There were times that he pushed our patience buttons and boy, did we ever feel helpless. It was during this time that we as parents felt we needed help. We scoured the internet and books for parenting tips and ideas.
One of the books we found was Nanny 911...mostly meant for taming down the little monsters. We tried some and lost some until our son aged-out the book.
Middle elementary flew by quickly without us needing a lot of reference books but adolescent rolled in and we are so in for another transition period to teenage years. This is the period of the battle between the parents and the child.
I try to remember how it was during my time but with the different environment we are in, it is almost impossible to just do how my parents did. How much more if combined with my altogether-different-decade my husband grew up in?
It is a constant struggle to bring together the combination and adaptation of how to raise teenagers in this day and age as one would always have different backgrounds and circumstances.
This is something that I have to be more open to proactively discuss with my husband continuously. I don't want for each of us to struggle alone. This can be pulled off with helping each other by knowing how we view every situation and how to cope or proactively deal with it.
We came to the point of going back to church for our sons sake but we just couldn't agree which one. We still haven't done so though. It's an inner battle for me.
We only have one son and as responsible parents, we just want him to be best that he can be and be a blessing to others. Well..that is what I think. I must actually have the husband state what his own idea though.
Oh well...we still have at least 5 to 8 years to hopefully do our job. There is no such thing as parents training before becoming one specially for the first-borns. It's an on-the-job training --- for life or until one sees that their offsprings can manage on their own..finally. Then, the tables can turn.
Don't get me wrong. My son was no angel when he was younger but he generally behaved well more often. There were times that he pushed our patience buttons and boy, did we ever feel helpless. It was during this time that we as parents felt we needed help. We scoured the internet and books for parenting tips and ideas.
One of the books we found was Nanny 911...mostly meant for taming down the little monsters. We tried some and lost some until our son aged-out the book.
Middle elementary flew by quickly without us needing a lot of reference books but adolescent rolled in and we are so in for another transition period to teenage years. This is the period of the battle between the parents and the child.
I try to remember how it was during my time but with the different environment we are in, it is almost impossible to just do how my parents did. How much more if combined with my altogether-different-decade my husband grew up in?
It is a constant struggle to bring together the combination and adaptation of how to raise teenagers in this day and age as one would always have different backgrounds and circumstances.
This is something that I have to be more open to proactively discuss with my husband continuously. I don't want for each of us to struggle alone. This can be pulled off with helping each other by knowing how we view every situation and how to cope or proactively deal with it.
We came to the point of going back to church for our sons sake but we just couldn't agree which one. We still haven't done so though. It's an inner battle for me.
We only have one son and as responsible parents, we just want him to be best that he can be and be a blessing to others. Well..that is what I think. I must actually have the husband state what his own idea though.
Oh well...we still have at least 5 to 8 years to hopefully do our job. There is no such thing as parents training before becoming one specially for the first-borns. It's an on-the-job training --- for life or until one sees that their offsprings can manage on their own..finally. Then, the tables can turn.
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